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| Mumof3 |
Posted - Sep 23 2008 : 1:44:30 PM
My dad informed me that he wants to divorce my mother. After almost 52 years of marriage. How do I wrap my head around this one?
Karin
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| queenofdreamsz4u |
Posted - Sep 24 2008 : 9:52:16 PM
Karin, I so hope things will turn around for them and they can realize that growing old (or any age really) and having a friend by your side to care for you during the good and bad is a blessing that alot of folks will never have.
I'm so hoping there is a solution that they both can live with so they can share the love that they obviously had for one another and I know is still there...I guess it's up to both of them to see things in a new positive light and to recognize that life is too short to continue grumbling about things. :0)
They need to savor the moments and be glad they have one another..I'll be praying for them and for you..I do know how disheartening parents divorcing can be.
Hugs to you,
Stephanie
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| Past Blessings |
Posted - Sep 24 2008 : 7:30:00 PM
While it sounds like your parents have had a rather hard marriage for years, I find it hard to believe they would be any happier apart . . . after 52 years you become a part of each other . . . the good and the bad. Maybe if they separate temporarily the distance will make them see this? I think I would really question your dad . . . after 52 years, he isn't willing to see it through to the end? Does he think it is fair to his wife, to the family and even to himself? Does he really want to abandon a 52 year marriage and replace it with a legacy of divorce? Do they have the Weekend to Remember Marriage Conferences in your area? My husband and I have went twice. They are great and really help you to see things from the other spouse's perspective. It would be well worth it. People at these conferences range from their 20s to their 80s, so they wouldn't feel like misfits. Just a thought. I am so sorry you are dealing with this and my prayers are with you, sweetie!
Hugs & blessings,
Brenda
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| jpbluesky |
Posted - Sep 24 2008 : 4:42:21 PM
Karin - look at the support you are getting! Stay quiet, do what you need to do, but know that we sincerely love you, we have also had our share of heartbreak, and if you can go anywhere....you can come to us for strength. You are a wonderful woman, wife, and daughter. Plow through this. Love your parents, no matter what. They need you now.
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| Annika |
Posted - Sep 24 2008 : 3:05:07 PM
Oh Karin, how awful! I'm so sorry! I hope that things work out peacefully. I am praying for a good outcome. Hugs, peace and strength to you.
Annika
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| homemom1fl |
Posted - Sep 24 2008 : 2:58:47 PM
Oh Karin, I can't imagine your heartache. I will be praying for you and your folks. My mom had said she wanted a divorce from my dad when I was 18 (thankfully they didn't) and it was an awful feeling. I think no matter how old you are it affects you just like it would if you were a child. When it comes to our parents, we often times are children. I pray that God intervenes and restores the love they once had for each other. I also pray that he gives you both peace and wisdom! We're here for ya girl |
| Lainey |
Posted - Sep 24 2008 : 12:25:44 PM
Karin, you and your family are in my prayers. I'm so sorry to hear about it.
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| Mumof3 |
Posted - Sep 24 2008 : 10:12:17 AM
Thank you all so very, very much for your words of comfort and your prayers for my family. I am so thankful to have women such as you, who are understanding and compassionate and kind. After pondering this during the night and today, I am much more calm. Without revealing the details of my parent's marriage, I will just say that this is a culmination of years of discord.
My mom does not know. She is coming home Friday after visiting her sister for the summer. My dad is going to give her a chance, to see if her attitude and behavior have changed towards him. If not, he is prepared. I'm pretty sure that she has been as grateful for her time away as he has. There is a reason we call them The Bickersons. Not funny, but if you don't laugh.......
I do not feel it is my place to try and alter my dad's decision, but I have voiced my perspective on both of their behaviors over the years. My dad took it well.
Thank you again, sweet friends.
Karin
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| wild daisy |
Posted - Sep 24 2008 : 10:05:19 AM
My parents divorced after 37 years of marriage. They needed to because they could not get along after the last kid turned 18 and other issues. Sometimes it's hard to see a family split in two. I have six other siblings and it has split us as well. I try to keep some contact with them but feelings are hard to heal. Keep the door open and things might get a little easier for you. Don't forget the good times.....
Madelynne
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| neighsayer |
Posted - Sep 24 2008 : 05:57:34 AM
Prayers and hugs to you!
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| Ga Girl |
Posted - Sep 24 2008 : 05:48:48 AM
Karin, I will be praying for you and your family. I know that words are not much when you have such a thing on your shoulders but know that God is with you so you will not be left alone.
Farmgirl hugs, Karen
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| Amie C. |
Posted - Sep 24 2008 : 05:46:46 AM
What a shock. Karin, I'm so sorry. I can't imagine how I would feel if my parents decided to divorce. Even as an adult, a change in that relationship is like the ground shifting under your feet. I'll be thinking of you. |
| Tapestry |
Posted - Sep 23 2008 : 11:53:39 PM
Karin I'm so very sorry that this is something you're having to deal with now. I agree with others who question if there may be a health issue driving this? Keeping you in my prayers and bless you during this time of struggle.
Huggzz
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| therusticcottage |
Posted - Sep 23 2008 : 11:16:17 PM
Karin - I am so sorry. I know this is devastating for you. Hugs.
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| Aunt Jenny |
Posted - Sep 23 2008 : 9:06:32 PM
Oh Karin!! I don't even know what to say...I am emailing you right now!!
Jenny in Utah
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| Tina Michelle |
Posted - Sep 23 2008 : 7:30:55 PM
I agree that it very well could be a medical problem of some sort at the root of this. best of wishes and hugs to you.
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| Tina Michelle |
Posted - Sep 23 2008 : 7:22:22 PM
ok well yeah something else definitely is going on. being married for 52 yrs puts your dad and mom both at about 70 yrs of age.
I'd actually set them both down together and find a mediator to discuss what in the heck is going on.
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| Carol Sue |
Posted - Sep 23 2008 : 6:23:17 PM
Ahhh Karin, I think you are more than likely in shock for a bit and there are no words to say to any part of this.
((((((hugs))))))
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| kmbrown |
Posted - Sep 23 2008 : 5:28:51 PM
Karin, I am really sorry for you as you are trying to make sense of this terrible news. I really can not even imagine what you are going through. My mom and dad have been married for 31 years and I can't imagine how betrayed and hurt I would feel if one of them left the other. I wish I could think of something to say to make it all better, but since I can't just know I and lots of others are standing by you quietly supporting you in this trying time. Praying for sufficient grace to you and your momma. |
| lilyblossom |
Posted - Sep 23 2008 : 5:18:43 PM
Karin - I am sorry that you and your mother are going through this. Like others have mentioned dementia comes to mind. Maybe you could ask your dad to see a doctor for a check up before he pursues any legal matters.
Donna...true blue KY farmgirl, farmgirl #86 |
| bushelnpeck |
Posted - Sep 23 2008 : 4:50:24 PM
Heart hurts for you and your family. May clarity and sound advice be yours as you go through this with your parents...grieving doesn't even begin to express how you must be feeling...prayers and comfort to you...Debbie
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| kristin sherrill |
Posted - Sep 23 2008 : 4:43:45 PM
Karin, I, too, will keep you and your family in my prayers. Wow, I just can't even imagine what ya'll are going through right now.
Kris |
| Mommyswanson |
Posted - Sep 23 2008 : 4:34:31 PM
Karin
You & your family are in my prayers.
Laura
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| melanie47601 |
Posted - Sep 23 2008 : 2:29:36 PM
Karin, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Melanie
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| Alee |
Posted - Sep 23 2008 : 2:28:16 PM
Karin- I am so sorry for you and your family in this situation! I have no words to express my feelings. I keep trying to type something and it all comes out sounding not quite right. I will be thinking of you and your family often! *hugs*
Alee
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| dkelewae |
Posted - Sep 23 2008 : 2:18:21 PM
Karin-My heart breaks for you and your mom. I too wonder like Jami did if there could be dementia, etc that's affecting his judgement. I'll certainly keep you all in my prayers.
Diana
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