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| dg7954 |
Posted - Oct 09 2005 : 07:45:24 AM
I have found that everything about a person comes down to how they view life. If their perception of life is that it is one catastrophy after another, and are braced for the next one, that is how they live. They are always preparing for the next crisis....always getting ready in case something should happen. They are never relaxed, and rarely enjoy life. Another type of person is one that needs to get everything done before he or she can relax and have fun. They see life as a series of jobs that must be done. Of course, they are never done, so it is rare to see this type of person having any fun or relaxing. How about the type that thinks if something good happens to them, they will pay for it in some way? Their perception of life is a check and balance system, where they can't ever enjoy the good things that happen to them. How do you view life? Actually, I might be wrong. Maybe it is not how one views life, but how one feels about death. If I think about it, the types I mentioned above are all fear based. What are they afraid of? Ultimately, it might be death. If death is the ultimate fear, then all the choices in life are based on trying to prevent it. If I think about it, all the motions that these types go through is to feel safe and "alive." It is their way of saying to themselves "Okay, you made it through another day. You beat death again." I believe that all fears in life ultimately come from this basic survival fear. Wouldn't it be wonderful to go through your life without fear? I say, "Why not!!!!" I say there is nothing to fear. If you think ii through, your soul energy is completely made up of the love energy. There is nothing else. On this earth plane, you enter a material vessel (body) that has a brain with a unique personality. It is the brain that has fear in this life. It battles with the soul that only wants love to come through. A lot of the time, the soul loses. But this does not change what the soul is made up of....pure love energy. When your soul leaves your body, it is just the love vibration that it takes with it. So, I ask, how bad can death be? Once you are free of the fear of dying, you can perceive life differently. I personally see life as a giant board game (my daughter attributes this to the fact that my sun sign is Sagittarius, and I perceive everything as a game, which is true). I think life is wonderful. It is not that I haven't had a difficult life, I have. But, when I have gotten the "go directly to jail" card, my overview has always been to see it as a puzzle. I have always figured out how to "get out of jail," and I always will. This life belongs to you. You own the board and all the pieces. If you are not having any fun playing, you are fear based in some way. Figure out what the fear is, and get rid of it. Nothing can ever happen to you. You are always safe. Ask yourself what you think the purpose of your being here is. Is it just to work? Are you waiting for something to happen? I think everyone's mission in life is to have as much fun doing everthing as possible. It doesn't mean that crap doesn't fall from the sky (I also believe that crap falls equally on everyone sooner or later). It is how you deal with it that matters....what choices you make. If you are fear based, you will not make choices that will benefit your soul. Life is a game you cannot lose so, take a risk. Buy Park Place, even if it seems outrageously extravagant, and win the game. |
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| Utahfarmgirl |
Posted - Oct 22 2005 : 09:03:39 AM
Bobbi, when you die, you won't look back and say, "Gee, I wish I'd spent more time on laundry." You're a wise woman. God bless.
Patricia
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| Whimsy_girl |
Posted - Oct 21 2005 : 9:46:23 PM
I agree with Deb 100% my number one fear is something happening to a loved one. I don't fear death at all, but I do fear being immobilized... I have occasional joint problems and I just turn into a nasty bear of a person when my elbows flare up because I can't DO anything and that drives me nuts. I like to live. I love to play and I try to make the most out of my time. I would like my home to be sparkly and perfect but with 2 toddlers and the yard to keep up with I can't have that. I really don't like living like life is one job after another but the only way to keep up with everything is to do just that. Instead I choose to keep up with the most pressing things in the moment and enjoy my time with the girls. I'll be a busy bee once they are in school but until then I'd rather trip over the occasional pile of unfinished laundry and do last nights dishes the next morning then miss out on all the silly fun stuff that these kids do.
you can be oh so smart, or you can be oh so positive. I wasted a lot of time being smart I prefer being positive. |
| tiffany01 |
Posted - Oct 17 2005 : 5:45:36 PM
I've started following my 3 year old niece's example of waking up, throwing my arms out and saying "Ta-da!" She does this in the morning and after her naps and I've found it's a great way to start the day! DH just chuckles and rolls back over and goes to sleep.
Frannie - I LOVED Big Fish! I loved the imagination of the father and as someone who likes to be the center of attention (guess who's telling the ghost stories at our Halloween party?) I could definately relate. I know some people didn't care for it at all, thinking the father was annoying. Can you imagine?!
As for the way I view life, I can appreciate the simple pleasures one minute and be worrying over something I have no control over the next. But for the most part, I am truly happy with my life. |
| CabinCreek-Kentucky |
Posted - Oct 17 2005 : 08:55:14 AM
I believe our 'attitudes' about life and everything that comes with it .. is how we usually 'view' life. Does not mean that we have to be 'pollyanna's' all of the time .. but as Will Rogers said (well, i might be changing a couple words .. but the idea is what is important): "I believe a person is about as happy as they make up their minds to be".
I loved the movie: BIG FISH .. here is a little something that i wrote to my 'gurlfrenz' about the movie (and me):
BIG FISH .. oh gurlfrenz .. DO NOT miss that movie .. if you want to know the true essence of ME! Don't think I've ever seen a movie or read a book that more explained 'who i am'. YES! I am the FATHER (who told 'whopping tales') in the movie! (As many of you who have been the 'star' in some of my 'stories' will attest to!) I guess, like the father, i shall probably protest until i draw my last breath that "I HAVE A STORY TO TELL .. AND I SWEAR IT'S TRUE!" ... but i think the line that REALLY spoke to my heart was: "in life, we see things how we choose to" ... isn't that GREAT! It gives us a choice to see the good or the bad .. the happy or the sad! Either way, i guess we learn a life lesson .. but the good and happy is surely my choice! Now, this is NOT to say (as is shown in the last scene of the movie) .. that as i am heading for heaven that i want ya'll to show up and toss me in a river! (i don't think that is how my last chapter is written!) the ending will reveal itself!
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Originally posted by dg7954
I have found that everything about a person comes down to how they view life. If their perception of life is that it is one catastrophy after another, and are braced for the next one, that is how they live. They are always preparing for the next crisis....always getting ready in case something should happen. They are never relaxed, and rarely enjoy life. Another type of person is one that needs to get everything done before he or she can relax and have fun. They see life as a series of jobs that must be done. Of course, they are never done, so it is rare to see this type of person having any fun or relaxing. How about the type that thinks if something good happens to them, they will pay for it in some way? Their perception of life is a check and balance system, where they can't ever enjoy the good things that happen to them. How do you view life? Actually, I might be wrong. Maybe it is not how one views life, but how one feels about death. If I think about it, the types I mentioned above are all fear based. What are they afraid of? Ultimately, it might be death. If death is the ultimate fear, then all the choices in life are based on trying to prevent it. If I think about it, all the motions that these types go through is to feel safe and "alive." It is their way of saying to themselves "Okay, you made it through another day. You beat death again." I believe that all fears in life ultimately come from this basic survival fear. Wouldn't it be wonderful to go through your life without fear? I say, "Why not!!!!" I say there is nothing to fear. If you think ii through, your soul energy is completely made up of the love energy. There is nothing else. On this earth plane, you enter a material vessel (body) that has a brain with a unique personality. It is the brain that has fear in this life. It battles with the soul that only wants love to come through. A lot of the time, the soul loses. But this does not change what the soul is made up of....pure love energy. When your soul leaves your body, it is just the love vibration that it takes with it. So, I ask, how bad can death be? Once you are free of the fear of dying, you can perceive life differently. I personally see life as a giant board game (my daughter attributes this to the fact that my sun sign is Sagittarius, and I perceive everything as a game, which is true). I think life is wonderful. It is not that I haven't had a difficult life, I have. But, when I have gotten the "go directly to jail" card, my overview has always been to see it as a puzzle. I have always figured out how to "get out of jail," and I always will. This life belongs to you. You own the board and all the pieces. If you are not having any fun playing, you are fear based in some way. Figure out what the fear is, and get rid of it. Nothing can ever happen to you. You are always safe. Ask yourself what you think the purpose of your being here is. Is it just to work? Are you waiting for something to happen? I think everyone's mission in life is to have as much fun doing everthing as possible. It doesn't mean that crap doesn't fall from the sky (I also believe that crap falls equally on everyone sooner or later). It is how you deal with it that matters....what choices you make. If you are fear based, you will not make choices that will benefit your soul. Life is a game you cannot lose so, take a risk. Buy Park Place, even if it seems outrageously extravagant, and win the game.
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| Utahfarmgirl |
Posted - Oct 11 2005 : 3:09:50 PM
JP, I think the idea of the Mary/Martha story was that we have to grab this moment, right now, because it is the only one we will ever have. Yesterday is gone, tomorrow is not yet here. If we make the most of this moment, all the ones to come will take care of themselves.
There are only two ways human beings can react to any given situation: either from love or from fear. The law of the Universe is "like attracts like" which means that we attract to us what we give our energy to. (see the "What the Bleep" thread) This is why people always find themselves in the same situations in life, good or bad. If you give your energy to worrying about something you attract the very thing you're afraid of.
That's why it's so important to not give in to fear. This is what affirmations are for. If you need help with this, let me know.
Hugs,
Patricia
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| jpbluesky |
Posted - Oct 11 2005 : 12:43:52 PM
Are we going to drink of the juices of life or save them for later, when perhaps we may be thirstier? The ancient question, right?
The biblical story of Mary and Martha has always been an interesting one. Mary sits at the feet of Jesus when he comes to visit. Spellbound. Martha is busy making a feast for Him and the whole group. She is angry that her sister is not helping her in the kitchen. Instead Mary is being fed herself by Jesus' words. Jesus chides Martha and tells her it is more important to be with Him than to feed Him. I have always wondered about this story. I am sure Jesus and his friends expected a meal. Someone had to fix it. I am afraid I am too much a Martha! A servant!
My fears are based on the fact that my family could be left homeless unless we work and plan and strive. I am so afraid of hurricanes, and now we see how thousands of people have nothing because of them! Starting over. That is what I fear. Not death. But living and caring for loved ones and keeping them safe. I totally inderstand all you said above, and struggle with it on a daily basis. I am a worrier, born and raised. :)
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| westernhorse51 |
Posted - Oct 10 2005 : 5:55:52 PM
for me, life is an attitude. Its a way of looking at things. Thats not to say I never get upset, scared or negative but, I make a contious effort every morning when my feet touch the floor & I realized God blessed me with another day, I'm going to make it count. I want to do something good for someone besides myself. I know the world is a crazy place and it seems to be getting worse, people are hurting EVERYWHERE but I want and need to look at the positives in EVERYTHING I can. I see the small things and find the greatness in them. When my husband was very ill this past summer, I saw the greatness in this web-site and on this forum, the warm wonderful women who I never actually met face to face, gave me so much hope with prayers, thoughts and e-mails. It was a sad time but hes better and I met a great bunch of women that I know I can always talk too. I feel positive will breed positives in your life. Michele
she selects wool and flax and works with eager hands Prov.31:13 |
| KJD |
Posted - Oct 10 2005 : 5:14:56 PM
We use real plates, stainless, glassware for everything, snacks, whatever. Always have, but I saw an interview with John Travolta once and he said he learned his appreciation of fine things from his parents - they had no money, really, but just had an attitude of doing things the right way - always making an effort to make life nice. I have friends who have way more money than we do, who use paper plates, plastic, etc. because it's convenient. I find it surprising - I would say shocking, but that's legalistic - but they don't think their own families are worth the trouble of washing dishes. I don't get it... |
| blueroses |
Posted - Oct 10 2005 : 4:32:10 PM
Oh, Aunt Jenny, you are so right. I don't "save the pretty soaps" either anymore! I used to. What for? When I got married my Grandma gave me a set of silverplate cutlery and I only used it for Christmas or Thanksgiving, but half the time we didn't have it at my house anyway. Finally, one day I looked at my girls and told them that we were using the good stuff from now on. That's how I want to live. Just have to keep reminding myself.
"You cannot find peace...by avoiding life."
Virginia Woolfe |
| Aunt Jenny |
Posted - Oct 10 2005 : 3:14:13 PM
I tend to look on the positive side of thing. I know how blessed I am (not with money thats for sure..but with what is important) and I am grateful. I tend to be a "glass is half full" sort of a gal. And ...I don't save the pretty soaps and nice things for "good". I use stuff for now.
Jenny in Utah
Put all your eggs in one basket..and then watch that basket!! Mark Twain |
| Debs |
Posted - Oct 10 2005 : 2:46:25 PM
I have a positive outlook on life, but can't bear to think of losing loved ones, that is my worst fear. I try to treasure every day and enjoy life as much as possible. I count my blessings and cherish things that I know some people may never have. I see a lot of examples every day of people who seem to be caught up in a race against time (the "rat race"). They don't enjoy their job but have a fear of leaving their job so they just try to move up the career ladder in order to make more money so they can keep up with the Jones'. And then they don't have time to enjoy what they've spent because their work takes up most of their time! |
| sqrl |
Posted - Oct 10 2005 : 10:21:26 AM
I love to see the small things in life, the little signs placed all thoughout life letting you know that you are a small part of the big story. I look for these signs everything and I love finding them. Just like to other day I was dropping off payments for work at a different store. And they were all out of pennies and we were making things work to make up for the no pennies. I said good bye and wished them a nice night and went outside to my car and there right in front of my car door was a pile of about 30 pennies. I thought well isn't that just funny. "They" have the weirdest sense of humor but I love finding their little touches here and there in life. Life is always throwing out wild cards it's how ya deal with them that make your life this way or that.
I know a really great book about this topic called "LittleBig" it's a fanasy story and it's my favorite. The further you go in the bigger it gets. It's hard book to find but believe me it's worth the search. It by John Crowley.
Blessed Be
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| dg7954 |
Posted - Oct 09 2005 : 5:31:29 PM
Helen, I am with you. |
| bubblesnz |
Posted - Oct 09 2005 : 1:44:34 PM
Got to agree with your views Dg7954, life is a board game and it doesnt matter how much you obtain materialistly at the end it all goes back in the box for others to play with. So why stress it.?? Enjoy each day and each moment, good and bad. Treat yourself well, use the pretty soaps etc given as gifts , dont put them away for a special time. That special time in NOW. Slow down and go with the flow, loosing a few minutes here and there is no biggy. Life without fun and laughter is not a life..Let your inner child out,play and dont worry about what others think, chances are, they arent thinking about you at all.. :) |
| greyghost |
Posted - Oct 09 2005 : 1:13:20 PM
I think DH and I both veiw work as a series of jobs, and no we rarely get around to having fun.
We like to find these big projects - things most people would do once in their lives, if that. And we put ourselves through a lot of stress that doesn't need to be there. |
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