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| pinkroses |
Posted - Feb 27 2008 : 4:45:32 PM
Are you often sad?
How do you get out of it.
Seems like I am still sad ;
It is 3 years the 28 that my Dad died of cancer
I don't know if my sadness is due to all the different health problems I have or what.
I take medication for that ; but lately it seems like I am often sad to the point of crying
We finally got the loan for our new home on the farm
Hubby had to go down there night before last
They were burning brush where they had cut the road out for our drive-way and it about got away with them.
By law you are required to call the sheirfs office when you burn brush
We can only do it at certain times of the day.
Hubby got a call from his brother that evening and he had to go down to help.
Thankfully ; they got it all out.
I have to start de- weeding again
I have a problem with that; I want to keep everything, and hang on to it.
Any ways, what to do about beating the blues? Pinkroses
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| pinkroses |
Posted - Feb 28 2008 : 4:08:59 PM
I appreciate all the advice and encouraging words.
I have lost both sets of grandpartens years ago.
I know one never really "gets over " the deaths of loved ones
I am like so many; have suffered from depression for years.
I am a Christian and often times when I am really depressed Poems and writings come to me.
I do try to keep busy,
I am trying to plan a quilt for my couch.
I am going to put warm flannel on the back of the quilt I am making
My deceased grandmother; my Mom's mother taught me the love of needlwork and quilting , crocheting and hand emboridery.
I do a lot of different kinds of needlework.
Gran , made me a dresden Plate design quilt .
She put flannel on the back ; didn't line it with batting or with a "worn out blanket" as she often did
She made do with what she had; she grew up in the depression era.
She had to make do with the materials on hand.
Any how, the quilt is starting to wear in places; so, I want to put it away in a safe place where I have my wedding gown
Now, I am tring to design a quilt for the chouch,
Even that is getting me down a bit.
Yall know trying to decide and then can't make one's mind up. Ha
I thought that was funny about the car accident Ha
I have a bladder problem
So, if I laugh hard( which isn't often)
I do that too.
I have to wear those pads. , yuck,
That is what happens when one is 53, I suppose.
Thanks again for the encouraging post, hugs pinkroses
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| JessieMae |
Posted - Feb 28 2008 : 12:01:21 PM
I have been treated for depression - with drugs and/or with therapy - on and off since I was 17 years old...please understand that I know how you feel. Now, 14 years later, I feel like I've had a major breakthrough in understanding how my own personal brain works. When I feel a depression coming on (or wake up in the middle of one), I take extra special care of myself. I tell my two biggest support people - my husband and my mom - that I'm feeling depressed, and I ask for specific help. If I'm depressed because I'm lonely, I call Mama and ask her if she'll go somewhere with me. If I'm grieving, I'll call my husband and bore him with stories about Granny or Grandaddy that he's heard 100 times before. Sometimes we feel like shielding the people we love from our "badness," but letting them know gives them an opportunity to help you, which makes other people feel good. (Feeling helpness is bad for them, too!) If I feel like crying, I CRY!
I also look for breaks to my usual routine. Me personally - I have found it is impossible to be depressed while feeding goats, so when I'm depressed, I head for a farm down the road with an ice cream cone full of corn. It costs about 5 cents, the fresh air is good for me, the goats make me laugh, and when they all come running, it makes me feel really popular! I also make myself go outside for at least a few minutes instead of holing up in the house, which is all I want to do when I'm depressed. And cutting out sugar has been a big help, too.
If you need a support person, you e-mail me. I've been there, done that, and - contrary to popular opinion - I can shut my mouth and listen when asked! |
| Past Blessings |
Posted - Feb 28 2008 : 08:54:12 AM
Just don't pull one of your antics, Grace (such as stuffing checks in phones . . .) and I will try to control my bladder! LOL!
Brenda
Past Blessings . . . Celebrating Life as it used to be . . . when people loved God, loved their families and loved their country. |
| bohemiangel |
Posted - Feb 28 2008 : 05:42:51 AM
Brenda that is so true, we are told to be happy mainly through material things and a certain way of living. I think I'm happiest when I take each day minute by minute and not try to plan or control it, amazing experiences happen! and you miss out when you are trying so hard. America has so many people on meds to be happy its outta control, they just had it on tv. I think its our society too. Also being Christian this one preacher said ( you sure don't have to agree here) that this is hell on earth, it only gets better :):) I like to think that. Hang in there. like we said ITS OK to be sad or mourning. Those that say no you cant or thats not normal just salt over the shoulder. xoxo
**~~Farmgirl Sister #60~~**
"... to thine ownself be true."
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| katmom |
Posted - Feb 27 2008 : 8:04:18 PM
Brenda,
hmmmm. remind me to make you wear a pair of "Depends" if you ever ride in my car! LOL!
>^..^< Happiness is being a katmom.
mjf#72
Sisters on the Fly#472
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| Past Blessings |
Posted - Feb 27 2008 : 7:44:05 PM
I think for some reason our society makes us think we are supposed to be happy all the time and that if we aren't we are abnormal. But lets think about it realistically. All of us have dealt with the loss of a loved one. It is so hard and it isn't something you just "get over." And then add to that bad relationships, poor finances, rebellious kids, being misunderstood, illness and whatever else we humans may go through. Does it really make sense that we should always be happy. I think it is okay to have seasons of sadness and to be okay with being sad. Just like it is also okay to have seasons of anger, of stepping back, of confusion, of happiness and of contentment. Even as a Christian I know it is rediculous to expect a life of sheer bliss and joy 24/7. We need to accept that life is hard . . . in fact sometimes it just sucks! But we also need to know that this is our "learning grounds." Through these hard times we learn compassion, we learn boundaries and we learn how to have healthy relationships. If it never rained, then we'd never grow. So just know you are "normal," you have the right to be sad and you should not feel guilty about it. All that being said, look for the joy in life . . . the people that love you and accept you, the funny things in life that happen (My friend and I went through the Starbucks drive up window today and had the dumbest girl on earth wait on us. We were laughing so hard we almost peed our panties! LOL!), the beauty in the nature God created for us, etc. When I am stressed, my favorite thing is to take off in my car and head South into the wheat fields of the Palouse. Nothing more peaceful than miles and miles of open fields.
Life is hard . . . but God is good.
Many hugs and blessings,
Brenda
Past Blessings . . . Celebrating Life as it used to be . . . when people loved God, loved their families and loved their country. |
| chicken necker |
Posted - Feb 27 2008 : 7:01:19 PM
This may seem totally off the wall, but it is what it is. The hardest death I ever had to deal with so far, thankfully, is that of my grandfather. He was more to me than my own father. He died of Alzheimer's. He was supposed to give me away but he didn't make it. Anyway, I keep a picture of him with me always, I know he's still there for me, now. When I get depressed, I "talk" to him, see what he "thinks" about such and such. I hope he approves of my choices, but I know that he hears me. I carry his love in my heart, and that Death can't take away. I know he's on the other side, helping me whether I can prove it or not.
FarmGirl Sister #123
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| bohemiangel |
Posted - Feb 27 2008 : 5:12:07 PM
Aw Sheila....like others that posted here with depression or things like that. Honey you have every right to be sad about that...I still mourn my cousins' passing after 4 years from being killed by a drunk driver. I think its personally normal. No specific time you have to not or doesn't mean you can't have a sad spell. I struggle every day with anxiety and depression. I'm not ashamed just my thing. I try to keep busy, get a lil sun, eat well try to not eat heavy complex carbs, believe it or not the diet helps with the blues. We are here for you!!! It's ok and we'll listen.
**~~Farmgirl Sister #60~~**
"... to thine ownself be true."
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