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| mikesgirl |
Posted - Jun 25 2007 : 2:01:28 PM
Most of you have heard me talk about our cabin in Montana and how much we love to be there. Our plan is to move there permanently when DH retires, but we would love to do whatever we could to speed up that date. He can start working 6 months out of the year instead of year round as soon as we get a couple of bills paid off. Here is the dilema. We started thinking about moving our RV over to Lewistown, which is about 1 1/2 hours away from our remote cabin, but the closest town of any size. I have corresponded with the director of the Head Start there and there are three positions open for the following school year. I have been a Head Start teacher for many years, though not currently working. The jobs available are for assistants, so I know I am well qualified for one of them. I think my chances are pretty good. If I didn't get one of the available positions, I would look for another job in town. There seem to be quite a few in the local paper. If I found a job, I would go live in town in our RV and work during the week and go out to the cabin and keep things up on the weekend. The purpose of this would be to generate a little extra income to pay the above mentioned bills off a little sooner, establish residency in MT and be able to maintain things at the cabin the way they should be. I love Lewistown and would love living there. The downside of course is missing DH. He would stay here and work until we got those bills paid off, then sell the house in WA and move to MT on his six months off, then take the RV back and live in it until he is completely retired. I know it sounds complicated, but since we sold our last house and have been helping my mom with Alzheimers, it's the way we've lived. Dh works out of town a LOT, so he's not around the house much anyway, I'm kinda used to being on my own. I love it when he's around, but it's not a lot of time. What do you think? Should we consider it? Should I fill out those applications for HS jobs? Help!! Oh, by the way, we have some super good friends in Montana - something we don't have in WA as we just moved to this town a few months ago. |
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| happymama58 |
Posted - Jul 02 2007 : 3:10:20 PM
It sounds like you've made the decision that works best for you and your dh and that you're at peace with it. That's so important, and I'm happy for you.
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| mikesgirl |
Posted - Jul 02 2007 : 1:14:19 PM
I think I'm going to sign up to be a sub at Head Start here. That way, if I have a show, I am not obligated to go to work. Thanks for asking. |
| Alee |
Posted - Jul 02 2007 : 1:08:24 PM
Sherri-
I am glad you husband chimed in. Now you know what he wants and I am sure you will get to the cabin very soon! How is that job possibility going? I think you mentioned something about getting a job in the Elma area? :) *Hugs*
Alee
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| mikesgirl |
Posted - Jul 02 2007 : 07:50:10 AM
Here's an update - I let the whole matter rest for the past few days while DH was mulling it over in his mind. Last night we were driving back from the Mariners game, and he said, "Well, I've been thinking it over and I think that the best plan is for you to stay with me. If you want to go over to the cabin for an extra week or so, fine, but I think it's better if you stay here." so, I guess that's what I'll do. I could work harder at my business - focus more and book more shows, so maybe that's what I'll try for awhile. Thanks for all of your encouraging and supportive advice. I knew I could count on you ladies!! |
| Aunt George |
Posted - Jul 02 2007 : 04:40:48 AM
You have been given some great advice. If the two of you are used to living apart already, then by cutting expenses and increasing your income, that will only help the two of you accomplish the end result faster!! It sounds like he will be able to come to where ever you are anyway. So I say do what the two of you think you can handle. Listen to that inner voice, it is usually right. But and this is a big BUT......don't forget to love and care for each other along the way!!
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| therusticcottage |
Posted - Jul 01 2007 : 10:40:23 PM
Sherri -- sometimes we have to do whatever is necessary in order to make our dreams come true. If you would only have to do this for a year and then your husband could join you I way go for it. Especially if you have the opportunity to get a job in the town where you will be living.
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| happymama58 |
Posted - Jul 01 2007 : 3:02:55 PM
I just read this thread and think you got some wonderful advice. I think if it were me, with my temperement and dh's, etc., etc., I would go for it. But that's me.
I noticed you haven't posted about this since last week. Have there been any further developments?
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| CabinCreek-Kentucky |
Posted - Jun 26 2007 : 9:22:52 PM
gurlfren .. you could maybe 'try it' and see if you can live apart .. honey hunk and i did this for a whole year when we first moved to kentucky. he visited me once a month .. bringing a u-haul full of furniture each time. it was very worth it for our dream of cabin creek farm. xo
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| Alee |
Posted - Jun 26 2007 : 6:31:14 PM
I see Sherri! So you could get a job where you already live, so contribute to the dream move, and yet stay where you get to see Hubby more?
Alee
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| mikesgirl |
Posted - Jun 26 2007 : 6:02:10 PM
Alee - no he works in Seattle, soon to move to Everett. He works constructin so he moves with the jobs. Last summer he was in Coeur d Alene for 4 months. Grays Harbor is the county we live in. The volunteer job I spoke of is with the County CASA program. I did that in SEattle a few years back. |
| Alee |
Posted - Jun 26 2007 : 5:17:00 PM
Sherri-
Is Grays Harbor where your husband works?
Alee
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| Buttercup |
Posted - Jun 26 2007 : 5:01:20 PM
As a military wife and being away from my husband for months at a time in the past, I would say just go with your gut!! As long as it is not more then a year and if there is a way you all can make sure and see eachother during that time and/or if you know you have done this before and that your marriage can/will be fine, then do what ever your heart is telling you is best!! Only you and your husband really know!! I am thrilled for the coming move to your dream place and do so hope everything works out wonderfully!!!
Hugz!
Talitha
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| mikesgirl |
Posted - Jun 26 2007 : 3:38:29 PM
Well here's an update I didn't expect to write. I had really taken everything you all brought up to heart and was building a case for not going when DH came home and he's all gung ho for me to do it. I called about a volunteer opportunity here in Grays Harbor today and while I was on the phone the lady asked me what my background was and told me about an employment opportunity they had for caring for kids with dependency issues (kids of drug users, abuse, neglect, etc) THAT would interest me. I did my student teaching at Childhaven which is for abused and neglected kids. |
| mikesgirl |
Posted - Jun 25 2007 : 2:38:35 PM
Wow - you guys have really given me some things to think about. We have spent so much time apart in the last few years, I feel like I can handle whatever, as far as car trouble, etc. goes. I lived out at the cabin by myself last year, before we bought the RV, and I mean REALLY by myself. Closest neighbors were a couple of miles up the road, but if it rained you couldn't leave the place, due to gumbo road. The whole issue of dealing with problems doesn't bother me, especially since I'd be in town. The thought of living without him for months on end, however, does. We have been married since 1971 - had our ups and downs, but never had unfaithfulness issues, as far as I know. He has worked out of town a lot and I've trusted him - he's never given me any reason not to. I don't like the idea of being alone, but we could save a lot of money with this plan and move toward the goal of getting him moved over there. It's VERY cheap to live in Montana - I have gone for a month, not spending $100 on everything. Like you said, we'll continue to discuss it, and when the uncertainty bubbles up, I'll hop on the computer and vent. We have a while to decide. Thanks all. |
| Kathie |
Posted - Jun 25 2007 : 2:29:07 PM
Well Sherri..
i know this has been a huge goal & wish for you for sometime now..
& there really is so much to think about.. really.. Although i'm sure the two of you have really talked it over quite extensivly.. there probably has to be alot of details to work out yet..
alright..
I don't like the idea of you moving & living off on your own.. Yes.. of course we can.. but.. not exactly the safest thing for anyone to do..
next..
Yes.. you have made some great friends there in the next home place.. So they will be of great help , support & companionship for you.. But we have talked a bit about this.. & being alone.. depression.. & missing Your Sweet Hubby has been an issue.. This is only going to be amplified sister.. & not just for a week or so.. This is long term.. For the both of you..
This is really going to be tough..
yes..if we look at the big picture..& the whole"further down the road"
Scheme of things.. It really does sound like a fantastic idea..
But what happens when you do have problems.. Big problems..?
Are you able to take care of them on your own.. Like Car trouble.. plumbing issues.. i don't know.. health complications..
ANYTHING can come up.. & probably with during this time..
It does sound great.. especially if you can really speed things up by YOUR being up there now.. But, is it really going to make that big a diffrence? Is this job opportunity going to make that big a diffrence? can you make that kind of money there?
For me.. i know if i have car problems.. that is something that nearly more then anything else.. Will upset me worse then anything.. I don't know what it is.. probably something to do with my NOT being able to take care of it on my own.. I hate having something out of my control, You know.. So anything that i can't do.. that i HAVE to rely on someone else to help with.. is SO very frustrating for me!! & i just can't work on a car.. I KNOW I can not.. & if it puts me out.. or God forbid.. strands me!! Holy Crap!! I'd have a melt down.. & if My husband wasn't here to help me.. forget about it..
Which of course brings us to your Sweetie..
Are you really ok being that far away from him for that long a time?
Something huge to think about Pumpkin..
As irritating as they can get.. & as many times as we'd love a little vacation away now & then.. I know i couldn't manage it for months with out him.... I'd just miss him too much.. More then would be worth what ever we accompolished while we were apart..
ok.. as I said.. I know your talking it over together.. I just wanted to be your inner voice asking some more questions..
So.. there.. my 2 cents.. stick 'em in your Piggy Bank Sweetie..
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| Alee |
Posted - Jun 25 2007 : 2:26:21 PM
I guess it depends on how much you think this would impact your relationship. How long would this set up last? One year or multiple years?
Alee
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| nut4fabric |
Posted - Jun 25 2007 : 2:19:12 PM
Sherri 13 years ago DH and I were in a similar situation, he was moving to WA for work and I was staying in CA until our house sold and some loose ends were tied up. For us it was a bad way to go, everything that could go wrong did and it almost ended our marriage. Give this alot of of thought and then think about it again.
Hugs, Kathy |
| mikesgirl |
Posted - Jun 25 2007 : 2:16:14 PM
It's not as good a space, of course, but when DH was working in Sand Diego and Las Vegas I was with him in the RV and kept up my sewing. Cutting out things would be the only problem and I could do that at the cabin on the weekends. DH made me a 24 x 24 sewing room there. It's great - unfinished but great. As far as the shows go, I could only do them on weekends. I have done some shows in Montana and done really well. I'd have to bow out of the Puyallup Fair though. |
| Lizabeth |
Posted - Jun 25 2007 : 2:13:32 PM
We've only visited a little bit, Sherri, but one question that comes to mind would be about your sewing. You seem to enjoy this, your goods do well at shows and I think I remember you saying you had a couple upcoming events to attend (like the fair). Would you set this sewing venture aside, since you would be working? If you are living in an RV would you have space to sew?
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