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| westernhorse51 |
Posted - May 04 2005 : 07:54:15 AM
Hi everyone,I was going through some of the other topics and found one from Bramble about the fairy garden. I used to do alot of things like that with my daughter when she was little. Britta, thats her name is now 14 and bigger then me, everywhere!!!! I cant stand it.I had her a few months shy of being 40 y/old. We uded to have summer tea parties in the yard, I would always have a theme like Thumbalina or alice & wonderland. We would sleep outside on sleeping bags and when she woke up in the morning I had walnut shells in 1/2 w/ a small peice of cotton in them for a bed, q-tip cotton for a pillow and a small polly pocket in them. I'd hide them in flowers & in the flower beds & she'd have to look for them. It was wonderful. I miss that stuff alot. She is still very loving but a teenager. We do bake & cook together but I would like more of it. I know I have to let her spread her wings just like I had to but my God it's hard. I keep telling my husband I need more animals, I just love caring and nurturing. Everyone has a gift, I do believe mine is as a nurturer. I will always love & nurture my daughter even when she doesnt want it. I tell her thats my right as a mother. brable's story made me reminise, thanks for listening. Michele
"she selects wool and flax and works with eager hands". Prov.31:13 |
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| Kim |
Posted - Jun 04 2005 : 08:13:05 AM
Oh, my gosh! He is too adorable Kathy!
farmgirl@heart
Be at peace with yourself and the rest will follow |
| countrykat |
Posted - Jun 02 2005 : 8:57:25 PM
Cecelia, try this link.
http://www.focusas.com/Adopted.html
Good luck. I am a new mom so I am not able to offer much wisdom. I did however read the posts with much envy for the Moms that have wonderful realtionships with their kids. I am hoping for the same.
Here is a picture of my little guy, its a couple months old but one of my favorites.
http://www.tuschhoff.net/gallery/BabyAustin/IMG_2561 |
| Eileen |
Posted - Jun 02 2005 : 09:07:27 AM
Lorij,
My daughter in Wisconsin is married to a man whose family is just like that. Michael and his brother have decided to live in wisconsin as national park employees and live close to each other and each have a new 1 year old child. They grew up in a house in Lorraine Ohio with their mother who lived with her parents and sister and brother in law with all asorted children and pets. This was because none of them could afford a home by them selves so they decided to pool their resourses and get a lovely old victorian with enough rooms for everybody to have privacy but all be together in the same roof. They have named their home Trilogy for the three families combined. It works for them.
Eileen
songbird; singing joy to the earth |
| Clare |
Posted - May 06 2005 : 6:40:48 PM
Sending you good thoughts and prayers, Cecelia. You'll get through this.... take care.
****Gardener, Stitcher, Spiritual Explorer and Appreciator of all Things Natural****
"Begin to weave and God will give the thread." - German Proverb |
| cecelia |
Posted - May 06 2005 : 6:36:37 PM
It's nice to read all your postings, since I am going through some rough times with my teenage son. It's so hard to know what to do, because he's adopted and nothing like my husband or myself. Guess I just need more praying, and prayers, and hope for the best.
Cecelia
ce's farm
"Curiosity is one of the forms of feminine bravery" Victor Hugo |
| bramble |
Posted - May 06 2005 : 06:38:07 AM
My "chick" is returning to the nest today, HOORAY!!!
with a happy heart |
| bramble |
Posted - May 04 2005 : 6:51:58 PM
My "baby" left yesterday on a 4 day trip with his school for an environmental education program. He boarded that charter bus as if this was nothing new, smiled and waved goodbye. All the while I stood there with that feeling we had on the first day of kindergarten where you know it's the right thing to do, but you really just want to scoop them up and run back home ! I know "..roots and wings...", well my baby is flapping his ! Like Michele and all of you, I cherish the memories of when he was small and would come running up with eyes shining to announce" I heard a dragon behind Dad's workshop!" and we would go on a dragon hunt or some other adventure he would dream up.
Such sweet, peaceful, innocent times. I know that I will look back at this time with fondness too because he is experiencing the changes
that go along with preteenager-ness! What a journey this thing called motherhood is! I wouldn't trade it for anything! Ask me again when he is 17 and wants to drive!!! With love to you all, Eternal Mother Hen
signing off!
with a happy heart |
| MeadowLark |
Posted - May 04 2005 : 11:54:11 AM
Like all the other moms here there were some rough times in my daughters teen years but I held steadfast in my love and nuturing. Now that she is almost 23 and on her own we have a great relationship and she has fond memories of those nuturing times. She craves the little things I still do for her, says they matter now more than ever. Like sending her boxes of herbal teas when she has a cold, tucking homemade sachets in letters, and I am planning on making her a quilt as she is engaged to be married in a year or two. Daughters are wonderful. And I am sure sons have their own blessings and rewards for their mothers too.
"Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I'll meet you there." Rumi, 13th century. |
| jpbluesky |
Posted - May 04 2005 : 11:38:18 AM
There is nothing like the love I have experienced and learned about while raising my daughter, now almost 26. She is a mom, too, now, and I love that baby too, as if I had her myself. I continue to pray that my daughter and I will stay close and grow closer. We see each other often and have lots of fun, but there are many things we do not talk about. I still pray that I will be her source of support and I know she is now praying that she will be close to her own daughter as she grows up. Life's cycles. Looking back on my life as a mother, and after reading all of these mother/child stories, if you look back, we can see the consistant love that has never stopped, just gotten hidden a few times along the way.
jpbluesky
O, cease to heed the glamour that blinds your foolish eyes,
Look upward to the glitter of stars in God's clear skies.
from God's Garden by Robert Frost |
| Clare |
Posted - May 04 2005 : 11:07:30 AM
Michele, I know how you feel. Those teenage years sneak up, don't they? I experienced the whole breaking away thing big time, with my daughter. There were a couple really tough years. It was a horrific and the same time transforming experience. I think the fact that it was just the two of us as she was growing up intensifed our relationship, both the good and the not so good. But she always knew of my unconditional love for her. And when she needed help, she called me. Home was still a safe haven. Then when she went off to Air Force boot camp, I wrote her almost daily. She cherished those letters, and they got her through that evolving experience. I was surprised that when I went to her boot camp graduation, everyone in her squad all thought she was such a momma's girl.... and that was the exact opposite of the last few years while she was at home... Since then, as she's grown older (now 26.5), she has told me numerous times verbally, and in one very sweet email, how much she appreciated all that I did for her while she was growing up - and continue to do as appropriate now that she has a family of her own. Those times made it all worth it.
Life is all about transitioning to different phases, Michele. We have to let go of some things, in order to maintain others. You will find your balance, and so will Britta. You will be rewarded. 
****Gardener, Stitcher, Spiritual Explorer and Appreciator of all Things Natural****
"Begin to weave and God will give the thread." - German Proverb |
| Aunt Jenny |
Posted - May 04 2005 : 10:40:07 AM
My only grown children are boys..and although we had a couple rough patches..especially my oldest since he is so much like me... THey both call me about little things and seem to (without saying it) appreciate that even though they rolled their eyes and tried to pretend they didn't hear I always told them I loved them, insisted on hugging them and asking about their day and meeting their freinds. I am so happy with the relationship we have. I can tell you will have the same with Britta. Lucky girl!!!
Jenny in Utah
Bloom where you are planted! |
| Eileen |
Posted - May 04 2005 : 10:29:18 AM
 Michele,
Never despair about the nurturing. It is well worth the end result. My daughter is 29 this year and has just had her first child. My first grandchild. She and I had a couple of years in her teens that were pretty rough but I never stopped loving and nurturing her even when she pretended not to want it, I think just to impress her friends about how independent she was. She has grown into a wonderful adult and is always calling to tell me little wonderful things that remind her about the times we shared while she was growing up and she always tells me how much it meant to her that I kept on loving her and nurturing her when she was so difficult. Sometimes she asks me how I coped with it. I have told her that I coped by believing that all children go through a time of breaking away but that in the end they will return to the love and nurturing in an adult way. Also that I spent a lot of time in prayer and in silent tears that I never let her see. The result is a wonderful relationship with my daughter as a friend and confidant. We can talk about anything!
Keep on doing it.
Eileen
songbird; singing joy to the earth |
| MeadowLark |
Posted - May 04 2005 : 09:44:49 AM
Michele, I am smiling as I read your touching post about your daughter and forever a nuturer! Don't ever stop dear lady! This is a story that should fit under stories about Mom on Mother's Day. What you have given Britta, and are giving her now will stay with her forever and spill on to other generations... We are a healthy bunch of nuturers here! Thanks for sharing that! By the way, Britta is beautiful name and she has a beautiful mother.
"Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I'll meet you there." Rumi, 13th century. |
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