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levisgrammy
Scattered Prairie Hen Honcho
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Denise
Ohio
USA
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 Posted - Sep 23 2013 : 07:32:57 AM
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of what has been going. Life sure changes when you become a caregiver. Though Dad can do a lot things for himself, a lot of my time is spent in dr.s, prescriptions, taking care of all his bills and paperwork. I can't believe how time consuming it gets to be. Monday mornings are getting to be a zoo around here with all the phone calls to be made. But to be honest with you all having dad with us makes up for all of it. It's just new to me, so once I get the hang of it I'm sure I'll be fine.  Hope to be coming to the hen house more often too! Working on some gifties now.
hugs,
Denise~~
Farmgirl sister#43
"Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path"
Psalm 119:105
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Blessed in Colorado
True Blue Farmgirl
5766 Posts
Debbie Fischer
Coos Bay
OR
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Posted - Sep 23 2013 : 09:34:30 AM
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Thanks for letting us know Denise, I know adjusting to being a caregiver can be difficult, but with time, patience and lots of love it will become easier. As you said just having your Dad with you now is a Blessing and you will adjust to your situation. You will have times of tiredness, sadness, happiness, joys, smiles, laughter, but look at the lasting memories all of you will have. I do envy you to have a parent to be able to spend like with, but I know it can be difficult at times. I lost my mother when I was 4 years old and I still wonder 54 years later what it would have been like to have her in my life and what kind of Grandmother she would have been to my son, wish we would have had time to make those memories. But, I have made new and lasting memories with my hubby and son to carry on long after this old girl is gone.
Thanks for letting me share a bit:-)
Have a beautiful fall with your Dad and enjoy life with him.
Hugs,
Debbie
Proud Mama Hen of SPG
"LIFE IS 10% WHAT HAPPENS TO YOU AND 90% WHAT YOU DO WITH WHAT HAPPENS TO YOU." ~ANONYMOUS"
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Rain K
True Blue Farmgirl
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Rain
Paonia
CO
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Posted - Sep 23 2013 : 09:56:24 AM
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These two posts brought tears to my eyes...I miss my Dad so much, gone now for over 30 years. He was 52 when I was born, died in my early 20's after 14 years of heart attacks, stroke, kidney issues, cancer, on and on.
Denise, these are precious days,filled with ups, downs, and sideways of course, but such a gift to have those late in life moments with a parent. We lost my husband's Dad back in January of 2010, after two months of commuting to Rockford, IL, financial drains, roller coaster of feelings and emotion, and I wouldn't trade one second of that time, it was so special and deep. I miss him so much, all of our parents, especially now that a first grandbaby is coming (soon, I hope!). My father never met my husband, or our kids. It is heartbreaking to me even after all this time, more than half my life, without my Dad.
Debbie, that is so young to have lost your mother, and I honor and respect what a lovely motherly presence you are despite missing out. Heavenly mothering? The hand of God? What a blessing you are to so many...
Rain
Farmgirl #3381
The Ninth Wave
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Blessed in Colorado
True Blue Farmgirl
5766 Posts
Debbie Fischer
Coos Bay
OR
5766 Posts |
Posted - Sep 23 2013 : 10:29:47 AM
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Okay, now I am tearing up. Thank you for the kind words Rain, I know there are so many of us out there that have never known the love of a parent. So, I try to be the best mother I can be, and pray that my son and his future children will never know such a loss for a very, very long time.
Hugs,
Debbie
Proud Mama Hen of SPG
"LIFE IS 10% WHAT HAPPENS TO YOU AND 90% WHAT YOU DO WITH WHAT HAPPENS TO YOU." ~ANONYMOUS"
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levisgrammy
Scattered Prairie Hen Honcho
10937 Posts
Denise
Ohio
USA
10937 Posts |
Posted - Sep 23 2013 : 10:33:12 AM
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Debbie,
It sure must have been hard for you. We are blessed to have my dad at 88 years of age. I was a late baby and there were many years between the second and third and the third and fourth(me) children in my family. So none of us are extremely close in age. My mom always said she took what the Lord gave her whenever he chose to give us to her. God is so faithful. I prayed this morning that he would give us a good day and he has. Everything that I was a bit harried about this morning went quite smoothly. I am praising him for answer to prayer. Mostly, it is only difficult when something comes up and we need to explain it to him. (rather loudly as he doesn't hear well with his hearing aids) Then since he doesn't hear it quite well he gets upset about what he thinks is going on. My dh has taken to typing things out that we need to let him know about. smart man! But I can't do that all day long. Mostly now I try to take care of things and let him know after it is straightened out. Makes things easier in the long run. He also suffers from spinal osteoarthritis so he has a lot of pain and some days are good are some are bad. We never know. I try to think how I would feel if it were me having these wonderful golden years moments. :/ I have learned a lot about myself since dad has been here. Only since June, hope I am a quick learner ;)
Debbie, you have such a loving spirit despite having lost your mom so young. I am grateful for you and all the love you show to us chickies here.
Rain, it is so sad to lose our parents when we are young, being the baby of the family I am praying the Lord will give my dad good years with us how ever many that may be. I always wish for more. He was with my sister for 26 years before my mom passed away. We live in different states and have ever since I married. So I feel like I want to have time with him learning about our family and about him. I write a lot down when I can. He likes to cook so I am learning more there too.
My dh's dad passed away when we were 30 so we did not have a lot of time around him but he did get to see all my children born.
I like this time of year for some reason it draws me back to the past.
hugs,
Denise~~
Farmgirl sister#43
"Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path"
Psalm 119:105
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Rain K
True Blue Farmgirl
150 Posts
Rain
Paonia
CO
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Posted - Sep 23 2013 : 11:05:23 AM
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Denise, are you scrapbooking at all? I would heartily suggest writing down or recording the family stories with your Dad on his good days. Drag out the old photos and make notes on who is who...I did a lot of this with my FIL, and am still slowly putting together heritage pages, then scanning onto disk for the extended family.
Just got the news...Jess is 2 hours into labor, with contractions about 8 minutes apart1
so here we go,
Rain
Farmgirl #3381
The Ninth Wave
Earth Meat farms |
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levisgrammy
Scattered Prairie Hen Honcho
10937 Posts
Denise
Ohio
USA
10937 Posts |
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darlenelovesart
True Blue Farmgirl
6194 Posts
darlene
Loleta
California
USA
6194 Posts |
Posted - Sep 23 2013 : 7:26:51 PM
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Thanks everyone for being so special and I am praying for all things to go well for you all.
love
darlene
Farmgirl # 4943
Don't worry about anything; instead, pray about everything.
Tell God what you need, and thank him for what he has done.
Philippians 4:6
Just follow God unquestioningly.
Because you love Him so, for if you trust His judgment there is nothing you need to know.
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Blessed in Colorado
True Blue Farmgirl
5766 Posts
Debbie Fischer
Coos Bay
OR
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levisgrammy
Scattered Prairie Hen Honcho
10937 Posts
Denise
Ohio
USA
10937 Posts |
Posted - Sep 24 2013 : 06:17:25 AM
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Oh yes Rain, please let us know!
Being a grandparent is awesome. I have three littles that live nearby and two that are 10 hours away. Long distance grandparenting is a challenge but we do what we can.
I am going to be teaching my granddaughter, Tori, cooking and sewing this year. The basics for an 8 year old but we are both looking forward to it. I have purchased a couple of books to keep me more organized and this week I am going to get together some things to make up a sewing basket for her. We are starting with hand sewing. Lots of Christmas gifts in mind for her to make. :)
You will love being a grandma! I always thought I wouldn't like it after they weren't babies anymore but I have just as much fun and enjoyment and making memories. Tori loves to be here and spend time sitting with my dad to read or whatever he is doing. I love that she is getting to know her great grandpa so well.
God is so faithful, I just have to tell you yesterday went extremely well with everything I had on my list. I prayed before the day started and it really blessed me the way it all worked out to be such a productive but peaceful day.
hugs,
Denise~~
Farmgirl sister#43
"Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path"
Psalm 119:105
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prayin granny
True Blue Farmgirl
919 Posts
Linda
Kansas
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Posted - Sep 24 2013 : 09:58:05 AM
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Gosh ladies! Tears here too. Miss my dad a lot. :(
Very strained relationship with my mom who has some forms of mental illness.
My mom still lives on her own but any helping her has fallen to my daughters. I'm just physically and emotionally not capable any more.
She's a very difficult mean and cruel person . It's taken me into my 50s to not allow her to guilt or intimidate me any longer.
Ok.....enough of this stuff.
Just cherish these moments Denise. Remember to take time to unwind for yourself when you can. It will all hopefully come together for you soon and you will find a rhythm and schedule that works for all :)
Hugs,
Linda
Blessings, Linda Always a ranch and farmgirl in my heart! Romans 8:28
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LadyInRed
True Blue Farmgirl
296 Posts
PeggyAnn
Vancouver
WA
USA
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Posted - Sep 25 2013 : 12:23:52 AM
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Denise, Debbie and Rain...OK enough with the tears. I have already gone through a box of
kleenex.
Denise...I know it is hard to become a care-giver, both Debbie and I have become that with
our husbands and that has it's own degree of difficulties. My husband has had heart issues
since my 27 yr old son was just 6. I have been in so many Hospitals and Dr.'s Offices with
him...that I remind God that I have already done my time...so, He can just by-pass me all
together. Been there, done that, don't want to go through it for myself.
Debbie...I didn't know you lost your mom at such a young age. That is so sad! And yet some how
you have such a huge Mothering Instinct...so, did your dad raise you or did a Grandparent?
You done good Girl...despite your loss and suffering. I would lend you my Mom...but I like
you too much to do that! LOL My mom has never been good at Mothering or Grand-mothering. And her mom wasn't any better than she is. So, I feel badly when I hear about Women who lost their moms and grieve so much over them. I love my Mother because she's my Mother...but I don't like her very much as a person.
Rain...You situation with your Dad sounds like mine was too. My dad started having heart attacks at age 45 and finally died of having 5 in one week...when he was 69 (12 yrs ago).
My Dad was my Prince Charming. He was such a Wonderful Man and I miss him so much! Him and
my mom were married for 52 yrs the month he died...and he always treated her like his girlfriend. To me...he was a Saint for putting up with her. But he truly did love her. I
remember the last week of his life...he called her his Angel to a Nurse in the Hospital. Now that is Love...because
nobody else would ever think of calling my mom an Angel.
Unfortunately I have lost my brother and sister both at age 57. My Brother was a year older
than me and my sister was 3 1/2 years younger than me. They died 5 years apart. So, my Mom is all I have left...so,I try to honor and respect her and stay close as I can to her. She lives 6 1/2 hrs away from me but I call her once or twice a week and talk a couple hours. She NEVER calls me. And mostly I just listen to her talk because when ever I try to say something...she just talks over me. But The Lord Blessed me with Two Wonderful Mother In Laws
that I loved and appreciated so much. They both taught me so much about being a good Mother and a good Grand-mother. I will for ever miss them and love them deeply.
OK...hang in their Ladies, we all have Family to love and care for...and What Doesn't Kill Us
Makes Us Stronger! Just Love The Ones You've Got! And Praise God for
the time you have to make Memories.
Love and Hugs,
Peggy
Farmgirl #1326
http://ladyinredsite.blogspot.com
"Leave Your Cares Behind...Join Us On The Porch"
"I'm only as strong as the caffeine I drink, the hair-spray I use and the Girlfriends that I have."
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Rain K
True Blue Farmgirl
150 Posts
Rain
Paonia
CO
150 Posts |
Posted - Sep 25 2013 : 09:46:48 AM
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So now I'm crying all over again...wow, as awful as it is to hear that Peggy and Linda's mothers are that emotionally split off, it really helps me to know I am not the only one that had a mother that did not mother me. My Mother was very resentful and competitive with her 3 daughters, bitter at marriage with a man that was 20 years older, and honestly just horrible to me as an adult. She hated that I have a fabulous family and went on to make a successful life, including parenting. For the last 12 years of her life, she did not call or visit with us one time, despite repeated invitations, etc.
I am so grateful for my husband's family...we are close-knit and deeply love and honor each other. It made a world of difference for me having lost my Dad so early on in my 20's. And yes, I have made peace with my mother inside my own heart, tried to see her as a woman that lost her mother at 9 years old, and just hold her in compassion. Some days are better than others!
So, Debbie, isn't it interesting on so many levels what a fabulous mother you are, how I'm sure Peggy and Linda are also, and I include myself in the good mom department, despite none of us really having that role model for various reasons? It's something to think about today.
love to all,
Rain
Farmgirl #3381
The Ninth Wave
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