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Project Discussions:  NOT FOLLOWING THROUGH ON SWAPS, NOT GOOD!  |
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Blessed in Colorado
True Blue Farmgirl
5769 Posts
Debbie Fischer
Coos Bay
OR
5769 Posts |
 Posted - Aug 16 2013 : 3:29:00 PM
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Oh my gosh I hate that I have to address this here in the Hen House but I must.
PLEASE, PLEASE do not sign up for a Hen House swap if you are not going to follow through with your end of the swap, it is so unfair to your swap partner.
I understand busy and life getting in the way of things, but you know before you sign up for a swap whether or not you have the time to do it. What upsets me as well is not only do you not follow through on the swap but you do not acknowledge receiving a package from your swap partner and you ignore my repeated emails. This is just so not right and it really can not and will not be tolerated here in the Hen House! I am sorry if I am harsh about this but I have seen so many hurt feelings because of swaps on the forum and I do not want it here. If this kind of behavior continues then you will not be able to participate in the swaps and you may be locked out of the HenHouse. We must respect and care about our farmgirl sisters in order for our HenHouse to be a fun and happy House.
As always remember you do not have to participate in every swap, you may pick and chose according to your life and schedule or you do not have to do any swaps at all. You can just participate in our discussions or our other threads.
Now, with all this being said we all deserve a second chance, so lets move forward from here remembering the things I have said.
I know I am not very good with words and how I write but I hope all of you understand my position.
So again please be considerate of one another so we can continue to have the wonderful Hen House we have.
Hugs,
Debbie
Proud Mama Hen of SPG
"There is nothing better than to end a bad day covered in dog slobber!"
www.etsy.com/shop/CollectThisTreasures
http://debbielynnf.blogspot.com
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Edited by - Blessed in Colorado on Aug 16 2013 3:29:32 PM |
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treelady
True Blue Farmgirl
1305 Posts
Julie
medina
ND
USA
1305 Posts |
Posted - Aug 16 2013 : 4:24:12 PM
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Hi Debbie,
As a swap hostess I have little tolerance for girls who do not follow through. If you do not have time to prepare the swap in the given timeline, do not sign up, and do not correspond with your partner until you receive a package and than become AWOL. Life does happen, but honesty and integrity. go a long way. I will step down from my soap box now.
Hugs
Julie
A little rain can straighten a flower stem. A little love can change a life.
Max Lucado |
Edited by - treelady on Aug 16 2013 5:15:04 PM |
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levisgrammy
Scattered Prairie Hen Honcho
10938 Posts
Denise
Ohio
USA
10938 Posts |
Posted - Aug 16 2013 : 4:31:05 PM
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Read and noted. I understand about being disappointed by someone not following through. You are right about signing up if you can't do it and to be honest I have found that sometimes I sign up but then something comes up and I am not going to be able to do it. As for me I try to step down before partners are posted.
hugs,
Denise~~
Farmgirl sister#43
"Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path"
Psalm 119:105
www.ladybugloveslilacs.blogspot.com
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Sue Feely
True Blue Farmgirl
243 Posts
Sue
Buffalo
New York
USA
243 Posts |
Posted - Aug 16 2013 : 4:54:28 PM
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I hear all of you loud and clear! Not fair not fair at all!  I know life gets in the way but dont just ignore emails and such just fess up even send late but keep in touch! |
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sweettea59
True Blue Farmgirl
1371 Posts
Sherry
Longview
Texas
USA
1371 Posts |
Posted - Aug 16 2013 : 5:27:29 PM
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Debbie, have read and do understand.
Farmgirl Hugs & May all your Wishes come true.
Sherry
Farmgirl #2215
www.etsy.com/shop/markiebuck |
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darlenelovesart
True Blue Farmgirl
6194 Posts
darlene
Loleta
California
USA
6194 Posts |
Posted - Aug 16 2013 : 5:41:38 PM
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Thank you Debbie for keeping us on tract. It is really a sad thing when this does happen it leaves the swap partner hanging and unhappy. I really try to do my best and would want to know if I didn't
hugs
darlene
Farmgirl # 4943
Don't worry about anything; instead, pray about everything.
Tell God what you need, and thank him for what he has done.
Philippians 4:6
Just follow God unquestioningly.
Because you love Him so, for if you trust His judgment there is nothing you need to know.
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Killarney
True Blue Farmgirl
2115 Posts
Connie
Arlington
TN
USA
2115 Posts |
Posted - Aug 16 2013 : 6:05:44 PM
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Mama Hen, Well said!!
Imagine....#3392 |
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kysheeplady
True Blue Farmgirl
168 Posts
Teri
KY
USA
168 Posts |
Posted - Aug 16 2013 : 6:31:57 PM
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Oh Debbie,
I hope whoever this is, does take this as a warning and NOT treat a HH chick like this, You know first hand what I have been through with the "dark side" We don't need it here at all!
Swaps are suppose to be a fun way to get to know someone, and pass on goodies, stories, recipes, and so on ...
Whoever you are, please don't do this here in the HH. And Debbie, thank you for addressing this issue ...
Teri
"There are black sheep in every flock"
White Sheep Farm
www.whitesheepfarm.com |
Edited by - kysheeplady on Aug 17 2013 04:25:26 AM |
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tammyc
True Blue Farmgirl
481 Posts
Tammy
Danville
California
USA
481 Posts |
Posted - Aug 16 2013 : 7:25:53 PM
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It is so sad and disappointing that Debbie, our Mama Hen, has had to address this subject on our HH forum. Like Julie, I pretty much have zero tolerance for swap partners that do not follow through with a swap, and worse, don't acknowledge their gift. In my world, unless you are seriously, seriously ill, or have a death in the family...those are about the only reasons you might not immediately acknowledge someones gift, much less not follow through on your own end of a swap. I am so tired of this "life got in the way" garbage. EVERYONE has life issues that "get in the way" and most all of us manage to remain honest and courteous to our fellow farmgirls. Look at all our own Mama Hen has gone through this year!!!
And then to see the person that burned you still on the forums....that is inexcusable. Yet another reason that I have backed off from the main forum. We can't let one bad hen spoil the whole flock! I know I don't want to swap worrying that I might get partnered with this person.
So Mama Hen....you do whatever you have to....I've got your back!
Hugs, Tammy
"Be who you are and say what you like because the people who mind don't matter and the people who matter don't mind" - Dr. Seuss |
Edited by - tammyc on Aug 16 2013 7:26:32 PM |
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LadyInRed
True Blue Farmgirl
296 Posts
PeggyAnn
Vancouver
WA
USA
296 Posts |
Posted - Aug 16 2013 : 11:49:44 PM
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Mama Hen...I have read this and quite frankly...this was the last place I expected this would happen.
Enough Said!
Hugs and Blessings,
Peggy
Farmgirl #1326
http://ladyinredsite.blogspot.com
"Leave Your Cares Behind...Join Us On The Porch"
"I'm only as strong as the caffeine I drink, the hair-spray I use and the Girlfriends that I have."
When I was a lonely wallflower, Jesus asked me to dance. Then he asked me to be His! |
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kysheeplady
True Blue Farmgirl
168 Posts
Teri
KY
USA
168 Posts |
Posted - Aug 17 2013 : 04:29:42 AM
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So ... Tammy, I agree! We do all have a life, and at the least, em the person say I am busy but as soon as I have a free min. I will fill you in.
Also, this may be stupid, but why can't we OUT these people? Why can't we just say who these people are?
Teri
"There are black sheep in every flock"
White Sheep Farm
www.whitesheepfarm.com |
Edited by - kysheeplady on Aug 17 2013 05:24:32 AM |
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ceridwen
True Blue Farmgirl
2087 Posts
Carole
Champlain
New York
USA
2087 Posts |
Posted - Aug 17 2013 : 05:22:25 AM
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My very first swap was on the main site. It was the teacup swap. I prepared my package and sent if off to my partner. I never received anything from her. She did thank me for my things and even posted a picture, but never sent her things. I felt hurt but left it at that. Then a huge boxed showed up on my door steps. And i do mean huge, the postage was around $30.00. Thinking it was for my brother I left it there until my dd comes home from school and says the box was for me. An annonimous sister had sent me a huge package. The return address was from MJF. I did write a thank you to that address not knowing to whom it belonged. It was't until a few months later that I did a search and found out it belonged to MJF. The following day I received another annonimous package with the same return address. By then I was in tears. I still do not know who sent it to me but am forever grateful and return the kindness by surprising a fellow sister. It's unfortunate that not everyone follows through but there are lots of farmgirls that do. Thank you
Carole
Farmgirl Sister 3610
http://www.carolesquiltingetc.com
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kysheeplady
True Blue Farmgirl
168 Posts
Teri
KY
USA
168 Posts |
Posted - Aug 17 2013 : 05:25:23 AM
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Carole,
How nice to hear a good story, TFS!
Teri
"There are black sheep in every flock"
White Sheep Farm
www.whitesheepfarm.com |
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levisgrammy
Scattered Prairie Hen Honcho
10938 Posts
Denise
Ohio
USA
10938 Posts |
Posted - Aug 17 2013 : 07:45:01 AM
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I like to believe that the majority of the women on the forum are honest and do follow through. But the ones who don't make it difficult for the rest as then we all hesitate to do the swaps. I understand about life, believe me. My mom passed away a year ago this Monday and moving my dad here has been a major life change for us but if anything I have become more active. You all here at the hen house have become a sort of life line for me. I hope that doesn't sound ridiculous but it is what has kept me sane. I check here everyday and sometimes 2 or 3 times to see if anything new is going on. You all are the best and I hope that the sister that is having a difficulty will contact Debbie and all will be forgiven.
hugs,
Denise~~
Farmgirl sister#43
"Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path"
Psalm 119:105
www.ladybugloveslilacs.blogspot.com
www.torisgram.etsy.com |
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treelady
True Blue Farmgirl
1305 Posts
Julie
medina
ND
USA
1305 Posts |
Posted - Aug 17 2013 : 08:00:03 AM
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Oh Denise, I know exactly what you are saying about the girls and the hen house keeping you sane. DH and I are his mothers care takers and a lot of my "free time" is taken by doctors appts., preparing her meals, her yard work and just general chores, add that to my own household, farm yard, the cattle and farming and trying to squeeze in time for our own kids and grand kids, leaves little time for socializing, so the henhouse and farm girls are my life line too.
Hugs
Julie
A little rain can straighten a flower stem. A little love can change a life.
Max Lucado |
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levisgrammy
Scattered Prairie Hen Honcho
10938 Posts
Denise
Ohio
USA
10938 Posts |
Posted - Aug 17 2013 : 08:12:54 AM
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I keep thinking that after dad is gone I will have time to do the other things I can't do right now. Honestly, dad can do so much for himself but, he is a man and along with the other two men in the house it leaves me a lot to do in the way of cleaning and laundry and add three dogs to the mix. Two are his and we have one. Plus all the other normal things the need to be done. Dad does do some of the cooking but he does not clean up after himself. It is all about understanding that things will change again when dad is no longer here so I can't sweat the small stuff. I do however need to take time away alone every once in a while and that is where this group comes in. Even if I am not technically alone coming here gives me a feeling of stepping away for a few minutes. Sorry, I guess I got off topic. :(
Thanks Julie, it helps to know others feel the same.
hugs,
Denise~~
Farmgirl sister#43
"Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path"
Psalm 119:105
www.ladybugloveslilacs.blogspot.com
www.torisgram.etsy.com |
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Blessed in Colorado
True Blue Farmgirl
5769 Posts
Debbie Fischer
Coos Bay
OR
5769 Posts |
Posted - Aug 17 2013 : 08:26:22 AM
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Carole, it was 2 of your "now" SPG farmgirl Sisters that sent you your packages for the Tea Cup Swap. Angels take care of Angels:-)
And this is one of the reason I wrote this thread, I had done the Vintage Apron Swap just a few weeks ago, the girl was corresponding with me and everything up until the day she received my package, I sent her one of my best and most prettiest vintage aprons from my collection, once she got my package with some tucks of course, she fell off the face of the earth. Truthfully I worried that something had happened to her or her family, to just quit corresponding and not acknowledging my emails or Julie's our swap hostess, and this is just so not right. So, 2 days ago in the mail I got a package from a Swap Angel with the prettiest apron, my colors and everything it was so me:-) You can see the picture on the Vintage Apron Swap. Seems CJ worked with my Swap Angel to see I had an apron, so I understand the tears Carole. There is so much love on MJF that it makes up for the "bad seeds". And, to be honest I believe it is one of my Chicks in the Henhouse that was my angel, so again I thank her for making me feel so very special.
Then I hear from one of my sweet Hens that one of "OUR" Chicks did not follow through on the 4th of July swap, I was already upset about the apron swap and this put me over the edge. So I apologize for my ranting and raving and the strong feelings I have about this, I have been with MJF for 4 years and this in not the first time nor will it be the last time this has happened to me or my Dear Friends.
That is why I so wanted to be the Mama Hen of this HenHouse, I wanted to make it different, better and a fun place to be where this kind of thing does not happen, and there is not all the drama and meanness that sometimes go on. I believe in my heart that this is a very special Hen House, where each of us respects, cares for and loves each other, and this is just an isolated incident.
I have the power to say who can and can not be in our Hen House, and if you break the rules I will call the farm and have you locked out. But, I will always give you a second chance and listen to your reasons why. That is why I will not name names, part of my job as your Mama Hen I believe is to take care of this kind of thing and I always will to the best of my ability, no one, I mean no one messes with my very special Farmgirl Sisters in this Hen House.
I appreciate all the Angels in the House who have offered to send a package to the Sweet Farmgirl who did not receive her 4th of July Package, she is being taken care of but I will keep all of you in mind if I need and Angel again.
All of you have so much heart and love, having all of you in the HenHouse is what makes it so special, so thank you.
Hugs,
Debbie
Proud Mama Hen of SPG
"There is nothing better than to end a bad day covered in dog slobber!"
www.etsy.com/shop/CollectThisTreasures
http://debbielynnf.blogspot.com
http://myworld.ebay.com/debbt |
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kysheeplady
True Blue Farmgirl
168 Posts
Teri
KY
USA
168 Posts |
Posted - Aug 17 2013 : 09:14:06 AM
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Oh Debbie,
You are so right, the girls in the HH are of a different kind. I love coming here, and tho I may not always have the time to comment. I still read and will comment when I can.
And if you have an Angel in Waiting list please add me to it. As I would love to be an angel to some farm girl who has been done wrong. Because as you know I have had it done to me.
Teri
"There are black sheep in every flock"
White Sheep Farm
www.whitesheepfarm.com |
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Blessed in Colorado
True Blue Farmgirl
5769 Posts
Debbie Fischer
Coos Bay
OR
5769 Posts |
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violetrose
True Blue Farmgirl
871 Posts
Ruth
Epworth
GA
USA
871 Posts |
Posted - Aug 18 2013 : 06:06:24 AM
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Hi Debbie, So agree with you! I have been on a Ladies Retreat, so just getting on-line.
I have signed up for the Fall Swap on MJF, and my swap partner is a new gal, she asked questions about swapping. I told her what I do, then said something about girls not following through and how sad it was for that to happen. I have not heard back from her, so don't know if I offended her or what. Will see what happens with out swap.
love you Mama Hen!
Ruthie
Farmgirl Sister # 1738
God loves each one of us as if there were only one of us!
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marlee
True Blue Farmgirl
871 Posts
Marlene
DeRidder
Louisiana
871 Posts |
Posted - Aug 18 2013 : 2:36:37 PM
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This makes me sad!!!
Marlee |
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darlenelovesart
True Blue Farmgirl
6194 Posts
darlene
Loleta
California
USA
6194 Posts |
Posted - Aug 20 2013 : 12:05:46 AM
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Sending Love and prayers to you all.
blessings
darlene
Farmgirl # 4943
Don't worry about anything; instead, pray about everything.
Tell God what you need, and thank him for what he has done.
Philippians 4:6
Just follow God unquestioningly.
Because you love Him so, for if you trust His judgment there is nothing you need to know.
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