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Hogs & Quiches & Prayers Round-up:  Prayers and guidance needed ASAP!!!  |
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Tumbleweed
True Blue Farmgirl
1019 Posts
Nancy
Texas
USA
1019 Posts |
 Posted - Dec 09 2018 : 10:13:27 PM
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Hello Farmgirl Sisters,
I hate to burden you but my hubby and I need your prayers and support in a big way. I will try to keep this short as I can.
We are getting our house ready for sale and need to paint the exterior. We made an appointment for last weekend but had to postpone due to rain. We notified both neighbors in writing hand delivered that we are going to have the house painted.. Well the neighbor to the east has a large RV parked on his property next to ours. Hubby went over this evening to remind him if the power wash on Tuesday and painting on Thursday to Saturday so he can park his rig down the street like he always does when he wants to move it. He told Hubby this evening that he won't move it and it is our responsibility to make sure his property us protected. He said he shouldn't have to be inconvenience and that he will sue us if there is even one drop of paint on his driveway. He states he isn't allowed to park the RV on the street for more than 24 hrs or he will get a ticket. Basically he just doesn't want to meet the "reason person standard law" or be a decent neighbor. He is telling a lie about the 24hr limit because it is actually 72hrs. He doesn't realize Hubby and I have a computer and know how to turn it on. I was so angry with this 25yr old person I had very hateful thoughts. When I calmed down I was heartsick for letting hate build inside. It is just this person has been so meanspirited to us almost from the time he moved in last year. He dumps trash and debris on our property all the time. I am talking construction debris such as cement bricks, wood from a tree he cut down, pieces of a metal awning. I took pictures and then moved it back. We have asked him to move it and He keeps doing it anyway.
I have a good friend that is a police officer and he explained the "reasonable person standard" in civil law. If we gave him plenty of notice and he refuses to work with us he CAN sue us but he won't win.
Sorry for my rant being long. Please keep us in prayer. Please pray for me that bitterness for this person is taken away. Thanks for reading and sorry if there are any typos.
TW
The fun begins where the sidewalk ends. Shel Silverstein |
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Audra Rose
True Blue Farmgirl
2204 Posts
Vanessa
Brooksville
KY
USA
2204 Posts |
Posted - Dec 10 2018 : 09:50:19 AM
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Prayers for you and your husband. You notified him in advance, so that should cover you. I'll pray for your neighbor as well, sounds like he is a Grinch.
Farmgirl Sister #6754
Doxie Mom - Everyone loves a Weiner!
Women and cats will do as they please, and men and dogs just need to relax and accept it.
Write it on your heart that every day is the best day of the year. NPR Reader's Almanac |
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Tumbleweed
True Blue Farmgirl
1019 Posts
Nancy
Texas
USA
1019 Posts |
Posted - Dec 10 2018 : 10:03:07 AM
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Thank Vanessa I appreciate it.
TW
The fun begins where the sidewalk ends. Shel Silverstein |
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HollerGirl56
True Blue Farmgirl
1334 Posts
Barbara
Flat Top
WV
USA
1334 Posts |
Posted - Dec 10 2018 : 4:06:58 PM
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Praying for your anger to go away Nancy. I get angry when people won't even try to be nice. I have known so many hateful people. Some people just get a thrill out of being mean. For your sake please try to forgive him and let the anger go. Although that is hard I know. I would have probably said something to him and made it worse. You have controlled your emotions so you are ahead. Try to keep being nice about it and maybe he will move it. I am so glad I don't have any close neighbors. Hang in there and get that painting done and over with.
Old Age Ain't No Place For Sissies!------Bette Davis |
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darlenelovesart
True Blue Farmgirl
7501 Posts
darlene
Loleta
California
USA
7501 Posts |
Posted - Dec 10 2018 : 4:13:11 PM
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Praying Nancy!
Take care!
Darlene
Trust in your faith, not your emotions, when it comes to making life’s decisions.
I have learned that to have a good friend is the purest of all God's gifts, for it is a love that has no exchange of payment.
by Frances Farmer
Just follow God unquestioningly.
Because you love Him so, for if you trust His judgment there is nothing you need to know.
I trust in you Jesus...
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Tumbleweed
True Blue Farmgirl
1019 Posts
Nancy
Texas
USA
1019 Posts |
Posted - Dec 10 2018 : 6:16:08 PM
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Thanks Barbara and Darlene,
All you gals are great. We will have to wait and see. We went over tonight to talk to him and have him sign an agreement to allow our painters to enter his property to cover his RV. At first he refused without even reading it. We asked him to please read it. He picked it apart but then agreed to sign it and did. We were very polite and professional. I think he realized we meant business. Well we will see. Thanks again for your prayers and support.
TW
The fun begins where the sidewalk ends. Shel Silverstein |
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levisgrammy
True Blue Farmgirl
9233 Posts
Denise
Beavercreek
Ohio
USA
9233 Posts |
Posted - Dec 11 2018 : 4:59:05 PM
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Praying for the situation there Nancy.
~Denise
Sister #43~1/18/2007
"Home is where we find comfort, security, memories, friendship, hospitality, and above all, family. It is the place that deserves our commitment and loyalty." William J. Bennett
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katmom
True Blue Farmgirl
17023 Posts
Grace
WACAL Gal
WashCalif.
USA
17023 Posts |
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churunga
True Blue Farmgirl
3919 Posts
Marie
Minneapolis
MN
USA
3919 Posts |
Posted - Dec 12 2018 : 09:53:45 AM
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So I would print out the text of the reasonable person standard law along with a nice letter asking him again how the painting of the house can be handled in a fair way for both of you. Include a copy of the statue that says he can park his RV for 72 hours on the street. At the bottom of the letter make a list of the other people this letter and the attachments are being sent to: mayor, sheriff, county commissioner, house inspector etc. Have his letter delivered so that he has to sign for it. Let him know that you want to be reasonable and to keep it simple for both of you. Be incredibly nice to this person at all times.
It is perfectly natural to be angry. How the anger is handled is the important part. Remember we are all fighting our own battles so kindness is necessary.
Marie, Sister #5142
Farmgirl of the Month May 2014
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Edited by - churunga on Dec 12 2018 09:55:18 AM |
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Tumbleweed
True Blue Farmgirl
1019 Posts
Nancy
Texas
USA
1019 Posts |
Posted - Dec 12 2018 : 1:30:18 PM
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Great idea Marie
The problem is he waited until the last hour to inform us. I will look into this though.
TW
The fun begins where the sidewalk ends. Shel Silverstein |
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Red Tractor Girl
True Blue Farmgirl
6517 Posts
Winnie
Gainesville
Fl
USA
6517 Posts |
Posted - Dec 12 2018 : 5:06:49 PM
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Nancy, I hope this neighbor conflict won't get out of hand and you can move forward with preparing your land for your move. It is awful to have such a stubborn neighbor!
Winnie #3109
Red Tractor Girl
Farm Sister of the Year 2014-2015
FGOTM- October 2018 |
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Joey
True Blue Farmgirl
1868 Posts
Joey
Gulf Coast
FL
USA
1868 Posts |
Posted - Dec 12 2018 : 7:26:05 PM
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So sorry this is happening to you. Seems like you have been right on top of what needs to be done. I hope this works out for you. Sending prayers.
Well behaved women rarely make history.
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Tumbleweed
True Blue Farmgirl
1019 Posts
Nancy
Texas
USA
1019 Posts |
Posted - Dec 15 2018 : 6:49:45 PM
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Well we got the house painted. So far so good but will stil need prayer. This person next door has serious issues and appears to target us.
Marie I did find a database of our city's codes. He has violated several of them. I have a copy with highlites ready for him. There is a lot more to tell but I won't bore you all with that.
Thanks again for your support. I love you all.
TW
The fun begins where the sidewalk ends. Shel Silverstein |
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Joey
True Blue Farmgirl
1868 Posts
Joey
Gulf Coast
FL
USA
1868 Posts |
Posted - Dec 16 2018 : 5:50:09 PM
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Glad the house has been painted. Hang in there.
Well behaved women rarely make history.
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loribeck
True Blue Farmgirl
588 Posts
Lori
Alvordton
36
USA
588 Posts |
Posted - Dec 16 2018 : 6:01:56 PM
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Prayers for you, Nancy. Nobody wants to go through all of the turmoil with crabby neighbors while preparing to move. Moving is stressful enough. Sounds like you got it together and are ready to hold off his attacks on you. Best of luck. I'm glad you got the house painted.
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