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rough start farmgirl Posted - Nov 24 2012 : 11:56:01 PM
Hello!

This is the new home of the Over 50 Farmgirls. This thread originated on the Welcome Wagon Forum. Anyone over the age of 50 is welcome to join in. Feel free to read the older posts for some "history" or just jump in!
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churunga Posted - Sep 24 2021 : 2:21:35 PM
I have a very good therapist and a few friends that I can speak with.

Marie
Sister #5142
Farmgirl of the Month May 2014

Try everything once and the fun things twice.
levisgrammy Posted - Sep 24 2021 : 1:54:14 PM
Marie,
I am so sorry for loss of your friend Dave. I hope you will take care of yourself and let go of any guilt you may be feeling. It never does any good for any of us to hold on to it. Please take care of yourself. I am glad you were able to be there for him.

~Denise
Sister #43~1/18/2007

"I am a bookaholic and I have no desire to be cured."

"Home is where we find comfort, security, memories, friendship, hospitality, and above all, family. It is the place that deserves our commitment and loyalty." William J. Bennett

"Thy Word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path." Psalm 119:105

http://www.ladybugsandlilacs.blogspot.com/
churunga Posted - Sep 23 2021 : 10:36:38 AM
Marilyn, Good for you!! I am so happy to hear from you again.

My friend, Dave, died in the hospital yesterday. I had been to his public housing apartment and found a document he had written two years ago when he had tried to commit suicide. It was called "Last Will and Testament". It was signed, witnessed and notarized. He was very intentional about his wishes for a memorial service. The hospital pastor and I used that document and the things I wanted to make him a nice ending ceremony. We arranged it so that all the music was at the end of the "service" so that we all could concentrate on the moment. Dave wanted a particular poem read called Let Me Go and he was taken off the ventilator during that. I held him as he went through the final stage. It is sad that his life had come to this. He was very charismatic and could convince a person that ice wasn't cold. He was very irresponsible with other people's money. Many left his side after such a failed transaction. I have my own guilt about this. I do feel well about staying with him until he died. I am glad I have had this experience. Now, I have to take care of myself.

Marie
Sister #5142
Farmgirl of the Month May 2014

Try everything once and the fun things twice.
levisgrammy Posted - Sep 23 2021 : 08:42:07 AM
Marilyn, good to have you back!

Marie so sorry about your friend. I hope you can have peace and not guilt.

~Denise
Sister #43~1/18/2007

"I am a bookaholic and I have no desire to be cured."

"Home is where we find comfort, security, memories, friendship, hospitality, and above all, family. It is the place that deserves our commitment and loyalty." William J. Bennett

"Thy Word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path." Psalm 119:105

http://www.ladybugsandlilacs.blogspot.com/
Marilyn Hartman Sullivan Posted - Sep 23 2021 : 06:53:47 AM
Rain, wind, and thunder today. We are having a bumper crop of acorns this year, so this storm is really a noisy one. Acorns pelting down on the metal roof and hitting the windows -- it's loud!

We had the remnants of Hurricane Ida blow through here a few weeks ago, causing huge flooding and even having some damage from tornadoes. The pre-school I work for is doing extra activities today to help keep the kids' minds off the threatening weather. Some of them saw some awful stuff with that last storm, so they are trying to turn the experience around with happy-funtime-play activities today. I am glad I am able to work from home. I usually do a payroll every other Thursday, and today was to be one, but I got a call here at home yesterday from one of my Directors. One of our staff was leaving for a holiday and wanted to know if she could get her paycheck a day early, so I drove into town and did payroll a day early. Worked out well because I am happily cocooned here at home out of the nasty weather.

I left the auto dealership two years ago in August -- just could not take the horrible customers any longer. The final straw was when a woman came in one day and threw her payment money at me...didn't slide it across the desk...she actually threw it at me overhand!! I had just had lunch with a friend who has the school and daycare and she had been asking me for years to come work for her, so I called her up and said I'd take it! His Dudeness understood -- it had been a long time coming. He had actually sold the business a year or so earlier, and was just staying on in a consulting capacity to help the new owner get started.

So I have been at the school for two years and it's a wonderful bunch of people doing some very good things for some very under-served people, but it's just time for me to retire. I don't have the edge I used to and I really just want to be at home doing the things I want to do. I think I have earned it.

Farmgirl #6318
"Where there's a will -- there's probably a family fight."
craftingram Posted - Sep 21 2021 : 05:40:17 AM
It's good to see you back Marilyn. I haven't been on for a while either. Good to catch up with everyone.
Marie, I am sorry to hear about your old friend. What a sad situation.

Karin
Sister #2708

Romans 8: 38,39
churunga Posted - Sep 20 2021 : 11:37:38 AM
I received some shocking news. An ex- boyfriend of mine is in ICU and probably won't awake,. I ws in his chart and am the only one left in his life who even cares,. He has estranged all other family and friends. I do not have a power of attorney and am just trying to be with him and provide a dignified end and secure his possessions. He has been homeless for the last two years and I feel somewhat guilty about not staying in contact. It is a sad story. I have much to consider.

Marie
Sister #5142
Farmgirl of the Month May 2014

Try everything once and the fun things twice.
Marilyn Hartman Sullivan Posted - Sep 20 2021 : 09:01:25 AM
Hello Everyone. I have been away for quite a while -- so much going on and so little time to keep up. I will be retiring in November, and hopefully I will be able to catch up with everyone. I have been reading a few of the latest pages and it's good to see so many familiar names.

Farmgirl #6318
"Where there's a will -- there's probably a family fight."
doll58maker Posted - Sep 20 2021 : 08:34:05 AM
To those of you who knew Mel Hawrysio - we were FB friends- she passed away on Feb 1. She had cancer and then got COVID.
Tall Holly Posted - Sep 11 2021 : 5:22:09 PM
Thomasina.... a Disney fan from childhood.

That was a very cold storm. Freezing birds beaks shut.

Today was a lovely day. Temperatures in the high 60's with a breeze. Hardly any clouds in the sky.

I bought a new chainsaw this morning. The cylinder in my last one burned. I was using the neighbor's fuel mix and I think she did not mix it as rich as it should have been. I should have just stuck to my tanks of fuel... It is a Stihl with a 16 inch bar. It is a commercial grade so it should last longer than the last one.

The cats are settling in. The black cat from the food closet is getting braver and sits by the back window watching the turkeys and guinea fowl run around.

Sweet dreams,



Holly
farmgirl #2499
churunga Posted - Sep 06 2021 : 9:23:26 PM
We lived on a farm in rural Minnesota when I was less than 6 years old. One cold winter day, a pregnant female cat came into the house from the barn. The next day a blizzard hit and lasted for 3 days. The kittens were born safe and sound. A drift of snow 5 feet high blocked the driveway. We found pheasants outside with their beaks frozen shut. The mother cat, whom we called Thomasina, took her kittens back to the barn in early spring.

Marie
Sister #5142
Farmgirl of the Month May 2014

Try everything once and the fun things twice.
Tall Holly Posted - Sep 06 2021 : 12:22:03 PM
Hello everyone,

Good luck with the unpacking. I have read that if you have a box you have not unpacked in a year that you should take it to Good Will or some such place and leave it with out opening it at all. We have a box of stolen glasses from different restaurants in Ohio that has not been opened in maybe 34 years. Still sitting in the closet waiting...... for what?

When we were down to one cat I contacted the Humane Society about barn cats. They are a bit more feral than the humane society likes for house cats. The barn cats come with all of their shots and are spayed. We have seven new cats now. All female. One has made her way into the house and has taken up residence in our canned food closet in the open part that she can get behind the bathtub when she feels frightened. Two arrived yesterday and are secluded in a room so they can learn that we are home and not run away. One walks with C out to do the pig chores in the morning. The rest are in the barn. I feed them down there. I guess if they find their way into the house when the weather gets colder they will be indoor outdoor cats. For four of the cats we paid $25 each. For the other three they were free.
Living where we live sometimes the cats get eaten by a wild critter. It is sad but it is life here. I hope these live a while.....like years.

Our first son came to visit on Saturday with his wife. He is 41 years old. They live in Wisconsin. It was a nice visit.



Holly
farmgirl #2499
levisgrammy Posted - Aug 28 2021 : 6:13:55 PM
Well, I have missed a lot. Unpacking is keeping me busy. I will have to take some time to get caught up with you all again. Unpacking is not quite finished yet.

~Denise
Sister #43~1/18/2007

"I am a bookaholic and I have no desire to be cured."

"Home is where we find comfort, security, memories, friendship, hospitality, and above all, family. It is the place that deserves our commitment and loyalty." William J. Bennett

"Thy Word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path." Psalm 119:105

http://www.ladybugsandlilacs.blogspot.com/
Tall Holly Posted - Aug 20 2021 : 08:37:19 AM
We have had days like you describe. Usually we only have two weeks of excessively hot days and nights. The last week of July and the first week of August. This year July was the hottest on record for Vermont. We are very lucky to live far enough from town that the concrete and absorbed heat from buildings is not an issue for us.

The cow and her calf have spent days in the hallway of the barn to get out of the heat.



Holly
farmgirl #2499
churunga Posted - Aug 19 2021 : 8:39:38 PM
Parts of Minnesota are now in severe drought and we have watering restrictions because of the low level of lakes and rivers. Parts of the Boundary Waters are burning and the temperatures continue to be hot. It is so hot that I have to take a siesta everyday during the afternoons when it is so hot. I refuse to have air conditioning because the machines are so loud and the electric bill more than triples. Besides, we would have to have it on all day. I can't afford that. If I really wanted to I could walk a few blocks to a cooler place. The problem is that I would rather be at home than anywhere else.

Marie
Sister #5142
Farmgirl of the Month May 2014

Try everything once and the fun things twice.
Tall Holly Posted - Aug 19 2021 : 7:30:45 PM
Marie I hope you have a nice time at camp. I am glad it was not COVID cancelled. I usually go to Girl Scout Camp in the beginning of September. It is an adult weekend. It was cancelled both last year and this. Have a good time.

We have had rain all day from Tropical Depression Fred. I would guess all of you up the East Coast had a visit from Fred this week. I think our drought might be over. This rain was warm. I was outside picking mullein in the warm rain today while G was in the orthodontist. He had his braces taken off about 6 months ago and then did not wear his retainers and his teeth moved on the bottom. His nice mother had braces put back on today. We actually had a surplus of insurance money sitting at the orthodontist so it is not out of pocket expense for me.




Holly
farmgirl #2499
churunga Posted - Aug 13 2021 : 3:40:21 PM
Aren't cats amazing! They seem to choose to mot be domesticated.

The weather is cooler here and has a nice breeze. I will be going to a camp on Cass Lake in northern Minnesota at the end of the month. I will be sharing a room with a friend of mine and we will be carpooling with a group of Unitarian women. I really need this break.

Marie
Sister #5142
Farmgirl of the Month May 2014

Try everything once and the fun things twice.
Tall Holly Posted - Aug 13 2021 : 2:24:57 PM
Hotter'n blue blazes here. If the wind would only pick up some we would be great. The sunsets have been pretty with all of the ash in the atmosphere from the fires out west. Unfortunately, some people are having breathing issues.

I had been in contact with the Humane Society for some barn cats. Day before yesterdaY I went and picked up 4 spayed females. They were yowling and carrying on. One was scratching at the door of the cat carrier. Then she was climbing over my shoulder. She walked to the dash and sat in my lap for a bit and I tried to comfort her. She started to walk to the back of the car and pushed on the buttons and the windows went down. I noticed the front windows were down and quickly made them close again. She walked towards the back of the car and was quiet. I thought oh, she has gone to the far back of the car and settled down. I looked over my shoulder and the back window was open.

I arrived home with three cats.

I called the Humane Society and told them what happened in case someone called.

Today I received a call telling me that one of the managers had spotted her at an out building near where she had jumped.

It is amazing that she was found. She is downstairs now with the other three acclimating. I will let them all out in a few days.



Holly
farmgirl #2499
Tall Holly Posted - Aug 04 2021 : 4:45:13 PM
I agree with the thought that the memories are not lost. My father had some sort of dementia and I think what frustrated him was the inability to get out a word or sentence that he wanted to tell someone.

We were the caregivers for a friend who lost her ability to communicate and I kept a group of stories that I knew she remembered and had told me. Most of which I was not a part of but, they made her laugh when I told her and she could bring back that piece of her past.



Holly
farmgirl #2499
churunga Posted - Aug 03 2021 : 2:27:12 PM
Ah yes! Memory . . . What was I saying? LOL

I am familiar with memory loss. After I had ECT, I didn't really lose memories. They seemed to be just behind a curtain and I needed some help lifting it. When it happened, memories returned in a rush. I still have some images in the front of my mind which I cannot locate. I have been keeping a journal since I was 14 so I could go back there. So much of it is so sad that I don't want to. I do not believe that individuals with Alzheimer's have lost their memories. In my experience, it seems as if the past is in the present. When I am interacting with people who go into the past as if it was today, I go with them. So if they believe I am their daughter, I do not contradict them. I believe that trying to bring people back to our present is frustrating for everyone.

Marie
Sister #5142
Farmgirl of the Month May 2014

Try everything once and the fun things twice.
Tall Holly Posted - Aug 03 2021 : 12:50:13 PM
Good afternoon everyone,

People must be busy this summer. Today we picked two and a half gallons of blueberries. My daughter made some very delicious blueberry muffins a little bit ago. We put 2 gallons of the blueberries in the freezer. It is so nice not to have to blanch the fruit to freeze it.

We went for a walk this morning. I try to take my adult foster daughter several times a week for walks. We do work on firewood as well. Right now the woods are too wet to take the tractor in so our exercise is walking. We walk about three miles. It is mostly flat so that makes it easier. Post menopause weight loss is hard so we walk to make the effort.

I have been pondering memory issues lately. How are yours?



Holly
farmgirl #2499
Tall Holly Posted - Jul 10 2021 : 6:58:52 PM
Good evening everyone,

The roses are in full flower now. Well, some of them have gone past. I pick the flowers and put them in a cake pan inside my gas grill in the sun. I do not put on the grill I just use it as a solar oven. Every now and then I fluff them up so they dry evenly. They smell so good. I sometimes put the peony blossoms in the grill too. If I leave the flowers on the porch to dry the wind blows them off. The mint is tall and I pick and dry that as well. The plants are all over the hills here. The farm wives of yore must have shared their bounty with each other and the mint spread.

Does anyone know about Japanese knot weed. It is a very opportunistic plant and takes over where ever it lands. I am trying to discourage it in two of my fields. I have cut it with my brush hog but it came back. When the clover and flowering plants that feed the bees pass I will cut the fields very low. Any suggestions on how to get rid of it are welcome.

Today was a lovely day out. I moved some blocks of firewood with the tractor. I am so happy to have a tractor it saves so much time and effort.

Sweet dreams,

Holly
farmgirl #2499
Ninibini Posted - Jul 07 2021 : 11:52:22 AM
I have a HUGE borage plant growing out there. I'm going to crystallize the flowers for decorating cakes, freeze some in ice cubes for when company comes, and then dehydrate the leaves and figure out what to do with them later - busy busy busy month ahead! Thank you SO much for sharing this information! It's my first time growing them, too! I did read, though, that you have to be careful. They are dangerous for pregnant woman (nobody worrying about that here, are you? lol.), not great for kids under 12, and if you consume too much it can make you ill. I am not sure how much "too much" is, but I am planning on incorporating it into a few tea blends this year. Denise - I will definitely make some oil with it - thank you for the recommendation. I am in hot flash hades! It makes summer so much worse! UGH!

Hugs,

Nini

Farmgirl Sister #1974

God gave us two hands... one to help ourselves, and one to help others!

levisgrammy Posted - Jul 06 2021 : 04:28:39 AM
Borage oil is good for hot flashes. I used to take it and it did help. Primrose oil is also good for that if anyone still has them.

~Denise
Sister #43~1/18/2007

"I am a bookaholic and I have no desire to be cured."

"Home is where we find comfort, security, memories, friendship, hospitality, and above all, family. It is the place that deserves our commitment and loyalty." William J. Bennett

"Thy Word is a lamp unto my feet and a light unto my path." Psalm 119:105

http://www.ladybugsandlilacs.blogspot.com/
StitchinWitch Posted - Jul 04 2021 : 11:20:27 PM
Marie -- Try putting a few borage flowers in your salads. We used to do that when I had borage growing. They tasted like cucumber. That's the only part of the plant we ate.

Judith

7932 FGOTM 6/21
I'm old and I do wear purple

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